A mum is branded ‘the worst’ after telling her daughter she was not allowed to return to live with her.
Posting to the ‘r/AmItheA–hole’ (AITA) subreddit – a forum where users try to figure out whether or not they got it wrong in an argument that bothered them – she explained that her daughter had moved there. three years with her boyfriend and the two got an apartment.
Due to unforeseen circumstances, however, her 25-year-old daughter has now asked to return to live with her parents.
Her mother refuses to let her daughter move in after her landlord raised her rent by 40%.
In his Reddit postshe explained that her daughter and her boyfriend had been together for four years before they decided to move in together.
“It wasn’t like she ran away with a guy she just met. We supported her decision, she was old enough and working full time,” she wrote.
However, the rent in the area where they live has gone up and his daughter’s landlord recently increased his rent by more than 40% in the space of three months.
Now she and her boyfriend can no longer continue to live in their apartment.
“The problem is that they weren’t exactly swimming in the money before that, they don’t really have enough for first last and security with the market, not that there’s a lot in their price range. “
As a solution, the woman’s daughter and her boyfriend decided to move back in with her parents for several months while saving more money to move, but her boyfriend’s parents also refused to take her in.
“So they came up with an idea, she would come back to live with us, he with his parents, and they would save up and leave in 6 months maximum.”
She and her husband however find it ‘inappropriate’ to let their 25-year-old daughter move in with them, arguing that she is an adult who must ‘learn to take care of herself’ and not rely on ‘handouts’ . of his parents.”
their own daughter offered to pay rent while she was living with them, but their only condition for accepting was if she “agreed to pay the market average plus her share of utilities”.
If their daughter were forced to pay this amount, it would mean that she would not be able to save the amount of money she needs to move in with her boyfriend.
Since they won’t let their daughter move in again, she is now forced to share a two-bedroom apartment with six housemates, some of whom she says are “incomplete”.
“I feel for her, but I still think it’s her responsibility. At this point, she doesn’t call much anymore and I’m afraid that has had an impact on our relationship.”
Most Reddit users who commented on the woman’s post agreed that she was wrong.
“Your daughter is an adult, but she’s still your daughter? She doesn’t count on alms. We offer her to pay rent,” a user wrote.
“Are you really going to charge him market average to live at home?” She even gave you a timeline. I think you are being unreasonable.
Another user added“You think you are teaching him a lesson in life. What you are really doing is abandoning your child and exposing him to evil.”
“Your daughter seems like a very responsible woman,” a third user intervened.
“She moved away after being with her partner for over 4 years and has a full time job to support her own family and live [at] House.”
“How can she get back on her feet if you behave like this.”
A fourth user pointed out“She probably feels lonely and betrayed and you, her mother, made her feel that way. Congratulations, you taught her not to rely on you.”
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